Two days ago a deaf women asked me, in tears, if she should grant her husband the divorce he is demanding . . .
Two weeks ago I was made aware of an abusive relationship . . .
Two months ago another deaf lady tells of a happening that is causing her great shame . . .
And I have been feeling so unqualified, so unable to meet these needs. To give the right counsel . . .
There are so many things that I need to work on - just me - how could I help anyone else? Isn't there someone more studied, more ready, more qualified to handle this than me?
Well, yes, perhaps, but the point is . . . they are not here! I am.
There is some serious spiritual bleeding going on, and there may not be a hospital near by, but I sure can administer first aid!!
So I am going to learn about ministering to the spirit, though prayer, and being able to hear, really hear God's Spirit. And I am going to be ministered to - to help assure that my own spirit is healthy to be able, then, to help others.
I am learning about The significance of sowing and reaping.
It's going to be a process. I know. And I'm rather excited about it.
There are spiritual laws at work that are as real and affecting as gravity, whether or not you believe in them.
Luke 6:37-38 says:
Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be
condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you.
A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured
into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
If you take this verse in context - the part about "give, and it will be given to you" what is it talking about?
What does forgiveness look like? It is a giving of the case to God.
- it's a decision, not a feeling
- it is acknowledging what happened, not denying the pain or anger
- it accepts that we can not go back to the way things were, not living "as if it never happened"
- it is not forgetting, the aim is to come to a point where the memory will no longer cause us pain
- forgiveness is not reconciling ourselves to a person who is unwilling or dangerous
- it is to accept and live with the consequences, not to be in denial, or continually grieving or blaming . . .
- it is the giving up of my right for retribution or restitution (that's in God's hands)
- it does not maintain a list of offences or hurts or a list of all we'd like to say
- it means dealing with my own hurts and offence and nothing to do with the guilt or innocents of the offender
- it is not necessarily a one time deal, it is only the beginning of the healing process
- it does not grant instant trust, the offender is responsible to rebuild/earn that trust. Earned trust is restitution
- forgiveness is a gift from God and something we do with His strength and grace, not our own
To harbor unforgiveness towards someone is like drinking poison and expecting the offender to die.
That's just to start off this week.